I read 12 Ways to Spot a Misogynist on Psychology Today this morning. It’s an insightful piece by Berit Brogaard, D.M.Sci., Ph.D., who is a Professor of Philosophy and the Director of the Brogaard Lab for Multisensory Research at the University of Miami. This is a must read. Why? “They are notoriously hard to spot. They do not come with a label attached, and they may even come across as pro-woman.”
And yes, misogynists can be more than just a selfish lover. They can be on your “team” at work, a family member, your boss and yes, even a client!
After reading it. And re-reading it. I then wondered “Well, now that I know how to spot a misogynist, how do I deal with them?” Which brings me here, writing this post and researching ways to effectively deal with men who have an unconscious hatred of women. I do hope this helps you.
Spotting a misogynist is a bit easier when you know what you are looking for in their behavior. But that doesn’t mean you won’t fall prey to a wolf wearing a prince charming mask. You have to be alert and aware as you venture into any new relationship whether it’s personal or professional.
Dealing with a misogynist requires you to speak up when they lash out and continue to engage as politely as possible. What’s that old saying? “It’s easier to deal with a problem when you know what it is.” That is SO true. But it doesn’t mean dealing with a misogynist will be any easier. It’s good to remember that it is okay to leave the abusive situation or delegate to a male counterpart. Building and maintaining healthy relationships should be your focus. If you are stuck in a professional situation where you are forced to deal with a misogynist I recommend reading a few of these posts below.
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