I read 12 Ways to Spot a Misogynist on Psychology Today this morning. It’s an insightful piece by Berit Brogaard, D.M.Sci., Ph.D., who is a Professor of Philosophy and the Director of the Brogaard Lab for Multisensory Research at the University of Miami. This is a must read. Why? “They are notoriously hard to spot. They do not come with a label attached, and they may even come across as pro-woman.”
And yes, misogynists can be more than just a selfish lover. They can be on your “team” at work, a family member, your boss and yes, even a client!
After reading it. And re-reading it. I then wondered “Well, now that I know how to spot a misogynist, how do I deal with them?” Which brings me here, writing this post and researching ways to effectively deal with men who have an unconscious hatred of women. I do hope this helps you.
Spotting a misogynist is a bit easier when you know what you are looking for in their behavior. But that doesn’t mean you won’t fall prey to a wolf wearing a prince charming mask. You have to be alert and aware as you venture into any new relationship whether it’s personal or professional.
Are You in an Abusive Relationship? by J. R. Bruns M.D., Psychology Today
The Twisted Mind of the Misogynist by Andrea King
Dealing with a misogynist requires you to speak up when they lash out and continue to engage as politely as possible. What’s that old saying? “It’s easier to deal with a problem when you know what it is.” That is SO true. But it doesn’t mean dealing with a misogynist will be any easier. It’s good to remember that it is okay to leave the abusive situation or delegate to a male counterpart. Building and maintaining healthy relationships should be your focus. If you are stuck in a professional situation where you are forced to deal with a misogynist I recommend reading a few of these posts below.
How to Deal With a Misogynist by Genevieve Van Wyden, Demand Media
How to deal with a misogynist by Dr Prem Jagyasi
When Dealing with a Misogynist Don’t Lean In – Channel Margaret Thatcher instead by Jaice Harmon
5 Things Sociopaths and Narcissists Say to Make You Feel Crazy
More helpful posts from Psychology Today:
Why Men Oppress Women by Steve Taylor Ph.D.
Giving Voice to Values: How to Speak Your Mind When You Know What’s Right