I know it’s only
Tuesday Wednesday, but I’ve already had to deal with major disappointments this week.
I won’t lie. It sucks. I began to search for quotes that could more eloquently convey my emotions. Well, at least better than the four letter words I had come up with. Even after finding this quote from Thoreau – I still have struggled. Not only with the disappointment’s themselves – but rather with identifying what/who caused them. My compensation would be dealing with them differently. Finding my voice, if you will.
If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment. – Henry David Thoreau
Disappointments can be as mundane as getting the wrong latte at your local coffee house but occasionally you are faced with deep disappointments that linger longer than a latte.
It sucks to see good people get played by master manipulators.
It really blows when someone you trust lets you down and behaves like an ass.
It’s painful to see a poisonous person sabotage and bully their fellow team mates because they don’t like change and their new responsibilities intimidate them.
It’s unfortunate when your time is not valued
Being lied to is no fun.
It breaks your heart when you see talented folks not take the opportunities in front of them
Coming up with a few new curse words are easy when y…Dammit. I think I smell breakfast burning. *aaaaaaahhh*
<insert smoke alarm sounds here>
There are deep disappointments that make us question our relationships, investments or life path and then there are other disappointments that test our patience, perseverance and determination. Regardless of what your disappointment is, you need to give yourself room to think without any outside influence. (And yes that means Facebook and Twitter. Keep your drama offline. You don’t need “friends” to think for you.) To be fair, we all deal with disappointment differently. It would be understandable if you head off into to the woods just so you can scream at the top of your lungs. In fact, I recommend it. Let it out. If screaming isn’t your thing – go for a walk, run or bike ride. Treat your self to a long reflective lunch or maybe go for a drive on back country roads to think without distractions. My point here is this – when faced with a disappointment that impacts you in a profound way, take time alone to reflect.
Now, I have not always dealt with my disappointments in the most ladylike of ways. I am not known for hiding how I really feel about users, abusers, liars, manipulators and asshats. But I have found that reducing my exposure to toxic people has greatly reduced the disappointments in my life. The biggest disappointment was, at times, my behavior when I was around them. I’m far from perfect. I have not and probably will not always deal with my disappointments in the most productive way – but I am trying. When ever I face disappointment I try to identify why the disappointment has upset me so that I can deal with it and move on. I may scream like hell in the woods first though. . .
In this search for insight on how to deal with my disappointment more productively – I came across these articles. I hope they help. If you have any suggestions or tips on how to deal with disappointment be sure to leave a comment. I’d love to hear them. Now if you’ll excuse me, I have some burnt toast to feed to the birds.
- Why Dealing With Your Disappointment Will Lead To Your Success | Elite Daily
- 4 Steps to Deal with Disappointment | Tiny Buddha
- How to Deal With Disappointment: 19 Steps (with Pictures)
- How to Cope with Disappointment | World of Psychology
- How To Deal With Disappointment | Psychology Today
- 5 ways to deal with disappointment better – Salon.com